What is the difference between condemnation and judgement

Also, do not underestimate how quickly our emotions can slip away from us, always be on guard around people that have proven to be challenging in the past, by going out of our way to make sure we do not get upset for any reason. I always try to remember this one simple fact about difficult people: people sometimes do the worst things, we just cannot take it personally as they would have done it to someone else anyways.

People almost always have baggage that influences them, which they had before they met us in the first place, so we should go out of our way to try and understand their original hurts that caused them to be difficult in the first place, and not focus on our hurt feelings! I guess you can say that at times I can come off kind of strong, when it comes to my convictions…but anyhow… My point is that I truly appreciate your explanation on the difference between judging and condemning.

Before you open your mouth, pretend to be the recipient of what you are about to say…How do the words or tone make you feel? I believe we should practice uplifting the hearts of others, not breaking their spirits with our tough talk. Christ drew us to Him with lovingkindness; how about we follow his lead and win as many over into the kingdom by our loving example?! Thanks for giving me this safe place to share. BTW, congratulations on finding your soul-mate.

Really happy for you both!! Regardless of any negative experiences people have, or have had, regarding discussing sin with one another, sharing our own struggles is by far the most peaceful way to approach a conversation as it actively demonstrates vulnerability, compassion, and, if the struggles are related to the individual being shared with, empathy through personal experiences.

It is very difficult to watch when people just take a swing at others as an act of condemnation, whether in public or in private, as regardless of where we are with sin in our lives at a given moment, we have all been dead in sin at some point and had to work to get there—it is important to always be conscience and humble regarding what we have been forgiven of, and be eager to help others overcome things in the same way.

For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. But if anyone does not have them, he is nearsighted and blind, and has forgotten that he has been cleansed from his past sins. Thank you for the kind words about marrying Amy, she is an amazing person and our lives have continuously been changing as God works to mature us a couple in the ways he intended by bringing us together.

My husband and I is having some argument regarding his son my step son committing fornication and that he is doing it in our house. His son is looking after the house but eventually had a girlfriend and decided to live together there.

My husband kept this a secret from me because he knew my moral and spiritual values even before marrying me. Of course, I got angry when I found about it myself.

My frustrations, anger and sadness came from different directions. Sadness because it is happening straight in our house and that I know there will be consequences to their sin. Thanksgiving is in two weeks time and we suppose to visit home but I decided to not come with my husband because I cannot see myself being there knowing of the sin going on inside our very house.

Please give me an advice or email me. To make sure I understand the full context, it sounds like your husband is not a Christian but you are?

Also, you noted your husband is concerned over you being judgmental, how have you expressed your point of view on this situation, and has there been a history of moral misalignment that did not end or go well? Do you feel like your husband does, or did in the early stages of your relationship, anything you felt was not in line with your Christian morals?

Sometimes it is hard for people to understand why we draw a line in the sand in the present when we were permissive about previous things. Personal Blog About. Of course! Here comes the uncomfortable part! Indeed, you are still not ready 1 Peter Therefore, rid yourselves of all malice and all deceit, hypocrisy, envy, and slander of every kind.

Like newborn babies, crave pure spiritual milk, so that by it you may grow up in your salvation, now that you have tasted that the Lord is good Romans Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. With such a man do not even eat What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? For anyone who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot love God, whom he has not seen Ephesians Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body.

The reality is, since we are of the same body, when we see someone struggling, we should be worried for their salvation, and want to see them be restored rather than sit in self-righteous condemnation, as in the process of condemning others, we are condemning ourselves at the same time Romans You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge the other, you are condemning yourself , because you who pass judgment do the same things.

Facebook Comments comments. You may also like. October 11, Click here to post a comment. Nathan, This has been a BIG question for me in the past 3 months, seeming that I have been going through alot… To me, Judging is along the lines of hipocracy. Also, what does the bible say about this statement… I am rebelling against God everytime I even pass a person and not share the good news of the gospel of Jesus Christ!

Hi Valerie, Thank you for the encouragement and feedback, I am glad you enjoy the articles, that means a lot! Now what about judgment or judging?

The most common Scripture used to say we are not to judge is Matthew which says judge not lest you me judged. Like I said most common used Scripture. However many miss another Scripture in John which says,. Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgment. Lets be honest with ourselves for a moment… We all judge. Mostly based upon outside appearances. Sometimes internal.

For the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart. I ran across another blog written by an outright pagan. I am not condemning them at all but pointing out something that is sorely needed, especially in Charismatic circles where some strange people seem to surface I say in jest. She and another visited a Healing Rooms in a very prominent Charismatic church in Cali. There aim was simple and quite neutral and genuine.

They wanted whatever this particular Healing Rooms had to offer. So they went and encountered absolutely loving, gentle, and encouraging people. They received very encouraging words a. Another passage about judging is 1 Corinthians You can see this in the current events. For fear of profiling and judging a terrorist attack in San Bernardino could have very well been prevented. The situation in question was purely an outside appearance issue. But because of the sensitive nature of people these days a person did not come forward with a concern.

Spiritually speaking, discernment should one or the only criteria for judging. There is right and wrong plainly explained in Scripture and should be taught, preached, and learned. There is also much gray areas as well. Many people judge others and have no clue who the person is or where they came from or their story.

In these cases judgment should only be used via discernment and not outright rebuke. Discernment is but judgment devoid of outward appearances. Rashness, bigoted, hateful speech is never, ever a legitimate expression of righteous judgment or discernment.

Truth with love, speech seasoned with salt to give grace, grace that empowers change and not that destroys countries. On the discipline…. It is for discipline that you endure; God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom his father does not discipline?

But if you are without discipline, of which all have become partakers, then you are illegitimate children and not sons. Furthermore, we had earthly fathers to discipline us, and we respected them; shall we not much rather be subject to the Father of spirits, and live? For they disciplined us for a short time as seemed best to them, but He disciplines us for our good, so that we may share His holiness.

All discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful; yet to those who have been trained by it, afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness. Therefore, strengthen the hands that are weak and the knees that are feeble, and make straight paths for your feet, so that the limb which is lame may not be put out of joint, but rather be healed.

Pursue peace with all men, and the sanctification without which no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one comes short of the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble, and by it many be defiled; that there be no immoral or godless person like Esau, who sold his own birthright for a single meal.

For you know that even afterwards, when he desired to inherit the blessing, he was rejected, for he found no place for repentance, though he sought for it with tears. Those whom I love, I reprove and discipline; therefore be zealous and repent. Discipline, correction, and rebuke. Hopefully the I answered that and if not then I would encourage you to study it more than I have. This blog is already getting too long…lol. God does indeed discipline and correct us and if Hebrews is right then that proves we are legitimate.

Have you ever sought the Lord for a Word concerning something but He gave you a Word about something totally different? It goes the same way. We need to have people in our lives who can challenge, correct, exhort, and come alongside us. For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. We love not being given a spirit of fear.

He crave love. We yearn for His power. But a sound mind? What does that even mean? Glad I asked! How many crave discipline? I do as an adult. The first calls for a response, the second for denial.

To evaluate a person or situation is to come to terms with it, to accept its existence. To judge is to attempt to reduce that which is to nothing, to cut off its existence. Evaluation is thus discernment, seeking or understanding what is. Such discernment keeps us in reality and is life giving. On the other hand, judging is deadly, precisely because it separates us from reality.

It brings home to us the truth that God can only be found in reality and nowhere else. God cannot tell his children in what is not. God can be Father to us only in what is.